How to Find a Good Hair Stylist

Hair stylist and a salon client wearing her hair in an angled bob
Angled asymmetrical bob haircut - Photo: In Green/Shutterstock
Trying to find the right stylist can be like trying to find the best player in a cut-throat game of hide-and-seek. There are many places for them to hide. Anywhere from a shopping mall to the trendy little shop down the street to the hole in the wall across town. You never know when that winning player will pop out into the open and enter your life.
And once you have finally discovered them, you never want them to leave your sight again. It is kind of like dating, once you find "the one" you want them to stay with you forever. So, with the lack of an online stylist dating service, what is one to do? Read on and hopefully I can help you make a love connection.
The first step to finding your perfect partner is to ask around. Just as you don't want to ask your girlfriend who her boyfriend is and if she can hook you up with him, you don't want to ask her who her stylist is. Many times those that are close to you will lie like a rug. They don't want their secret, i.e. their stylist, to be revealed. It is much better to get hooked up by a stranger.
If you see someone with hair that you love, or a style that you can't live without, find out who was responsible for that. Strangers will take it as a compliment that you took the time to stop them and ask about their hair.
The second step is to choose a salon that makes you feel comfortable. If you are a soccer mom from the suburbs, then a very trendy salon is probably not where you will be the most at ease. Find one that fits your personality and bank account.
Once you have chosen a couple of hair salons that peak your interest, ask for a consultation. This gives you a chance to check out the salon, their services, their staff and the environment without committing to a cut and style. Nothing is worse than sitting in the stylist's chair trying to figure out if it is appropriate for a grown adult to just get up and run, screaming for the exit.
While you are checking out the salon, check out the stylists as well. If they have fried hair, or hairstyles that are so far from what you are looking for, go home. I once had a stylist that had purple and black hair, and I was seriously afraid to have her color my hair. Not only do you want a clean stylist, but you also want a clean salon. A salon run by people who are proud of their business will work hard to keep it clean.
How to find a good hair stylist
Hair stylist - Images: Getty Images via Canva
A proud hair salon will also work hard to make everyone proud of their work as well. Find out how your stylist feels about the salon and her work, is she proud or a little standoffish. Asking a lot of questions will also tell you everything that you need to know about your stylist's personality, which can make or break a future relationship.
If you were starting a new relationship and your new beau didn't do everything in his power to make you feel special and comfortable, your relationship would be over faster than Britney Spears' first marriage. The same should be true of the relationship you have with your stylist. If he or she does not go out of the way to do what it takes to make you feel like you are a special client, who you are, get out of there. You are the customer and you should be taken care of.
Your stylist and their coworkers should also be taken care of by the owner of the salon. If the majority of the stylists look miserable and you overhear them complaining about having to go to work, then moral at the salon is low. Moral levels are directly proportional to professionalism.
We all are searching for the perfect person. Some of us have found that in a spouse or partner, but many are still looking for them. The hope in life is that once we find them we stay with them forever and them with us. The reality, though, in the salon life is that many stylists move on every couple of years. So, now what? Well, hopefully, you have done your research in picking your hair salon. If so, there will be another stylist that will be able to fill the empty spot in your life. If only boyfriends could step in like that.
See also:
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