My Wife's New Short Hair Look

Woman with hair below her shoulders
Q: So, my wife got her hair cut, and honestly, I'm not totally sold on her new look. She had gorgeous long hair, just below her shoulders. Before heading to the salon, she asked me if she should try something different with her hair. "Sure," I said, without really thinking much about it. I figured she just wanted a small change. So, you can imagine my surprise when she came back an hour later sporting a completely new look: short hair! She went for a trendy, asymmetrical bob.
To avoid hurting her feelings, I pretended to love her new look, but truth be told, I already missed her long hair. Yet, I have to admit, she looked cute and even a little sexy with her new short bob. Her excitement was contagious, and I just couldn't bring myself to disappoint her; she was so happy. It felt wrong to tell her I preferred her long hair.
She confided in me that she'd been wanting to chop her hair short for a while, but she didn't dare mention it because she knew how much I loved her long locks. Her original plan was just to trim it a bit shorter, but my casual "sure" in response to her question about trying something different gave her the push to go short. So, in a way, it was partly my fault too.
She was so proud and happy that she'd taken the plunge to go short. Deep down, I felt proud of her too. But I couldn't deny that I missed her long hair. And then came the second surprise of the day: she wanted to fulfill her ultimate dream next month and try a pixie cut. My heart skipped a beat, but to my surprise, I said, "Sure, go for it!" Her smile was priceless.
For me, this is really an emotional rollercoaster. I'm glad she's so excited about her short hair, but personally, I miss her long locks. And soon, it's going to get even shorter. Should I be honest and tell her I prefer her long hair? Or should I keep quiet and support her in her decisions?

A: It's perfectly normal to experience mixed emotions when your wife (or girlfriend) decides to change her hairstyle, particularly if it's a significant departure from what you're used to or what you personally prefer. However, short bobs and pixie cuts can bring about unexpected positivity and, believe it or not, even strengthen your relationship.
You've already shown some appreciation for the short bob your wife opted for. Describing her as cute and even a little sexy with her new short style suggests that you may, perhaps subconsciously, find her short hair appealing. Short bobs and pixie cuts often exude confidence and daring, qualities that are inherently attractive.
While adjusting to your wife's new short hair may require some time, I urge you to focus on the favorable aspects of her new hairstyle. Embrace the change and share in her excitement and happiness with her new look. Remember, your support and encouragement mean the world to her, and by embracing her decision, you solidify your bond as partners.
Woman with hair in a short asymmetrcal bob
Woman with hair in a short pixie cut
Regarding her desire to try a pixie cut next month, approach it with an open mind and a supportive attitude. A pixie cut is a bold choice, especially if you're accustomed to her having long hair. Your willingness to support her in this decision demonstrates your commitment to her happiness. And who knows... if you already find her bob a bit sexy, you might be pleasantly surprised by how much you love her pixie cut!
When addressing your feelings about missing her long hair, it's natural to have preferences, but it's crucial to prioritize her happiness and confidence. Consider having an open and honest conversation with your wife about your emotions. Show your unwavering support for her choices while expressing your thoughts in a respectful and empathetic manner. It's also possible that your wife simply wants to explore short hairstyles and may decide to grow her hair out again in the future.
Remember, strong relationships are built on mutual understanding and compromise. By embracing the positive aspects of short hairstyles and maintaining open communication with your wife, you can navigate through these emotional moments together and emerge even stronger as a couple.
See also:
Why women cut their hair short
When is it time to change your hairstyle?