Hair Standing on End

Q: I’m 64 years old and have thick, wiry hair with some gray. I keep it short because I have so many cowlicks that if I try to grow it out, it sticks out in every direction. Over the years, the texture has become even more unruly.

Is there anything I can use to make my hair softer and easier to manage? It seems to love standing straight up, no matter what I do. I’d really appreciate any advice you can offer!

A: Softening and taming thick, wiry hair - especially with cowlicks - often comes down to consistent conditioning and the right styling approach. A good place to start is with deep conditioning treatments, which can help restore moisture and improve manageability.

Here’s how to do it:

1. After shampooing, apply a rich, moisturizing conditioner to damp hair, working it through from roots to ends.

2. Use a wide-tooth comb to distribute the conditioner evenly and detangle gently.

3. For deeper penetration, cover your hair with a plastic shower cap, then either wrap your head in warm towels (fresh from the dryer for extra heat), or sit under a hooded dryer for 20–30 minutes to help the conditioner absorb.

4. Rinse with cool water to seal the hair cuticle.

For best results, repeat this at least once a week until you notice improved softness and control.

If cowlicks are a major struggle, another option is a permanent wave (perm). A body wave can add subtle texture, making hair easier to style, while a curlier perm can help weigh down stubborn sections. However, perms can increase dryness, so if you go this route, you’ll need to boost your moisturizing routine with leave-in conditioners or hydrating masks.

Using a lightweight styling cream or pomade on damp hair can help keep flyaways in check without weighing hair down. Look for products with ingredients like argan oil, shea butter, or glycerin.

With the right care, even the most rebellious hair can become softer and more cooperative!

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How to get rid of a cowlick

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